Deb - I agree with Debra. If it was me, I'd probably be kicking his ass out now if he kept on having this type of contact with OW.
When he has said in the past about you being old Deb, or how maybe now he'd not stay home...right now, he is someone who should be apologizing up and down with f***ing with the OW and hurting his family. That may happen - my BF just apologized to me, REALLY apologized (thank goodness, he and ex-OW didn't ML). I stood by him, didn't tell him to disappear out of my life - but you have a son involved. I'm not sure a good example to him is to look the other way each time your H is on the phone with OW. Maybe it is to force him to make a choice...if you can live with the consequences - though there is nothing guaranteed even if you don't. He could wait another year and finally choose OW. It sucks, but you just don't know.
I'm really sorry. I am glad he's wearing his wedding band...but he really should make a clear choice. Otherwise he might fence sit forever. He acts like he's a prize to be won - and he's NOT.
