yeah, I know....I just don't know what the heck else I can do....I really don't believe he will go with ow, I believe the things he was telling me two weeks ago, about how temperamental and moody she is, how he can't take that, he really feels....but I have such a hard time keeping a lid on everything....when we had our tearful discussion Tuesday, we walked outside so S didn't have to hear, and H said "you had this won, now I don't know" and I got angry and said "THIS is not a game....THIS is the life of our family".....H got very quiet and said "you're right, it's not a game". I was so close to giving him an ultimatum Tuesday in the middle of the night....that he either has two weeks from the time we get back to get rid of her, file for D, or I will file for separation....and if he gets rid of her and I find he's calling her then I will file for separation.....but I bit my lip and havent done that yet....I have to be certain I'm ready to live w/the potential outcome....OW may be a hotheaded bluffer, but I'm not....I play for keeps, and I mean what I say....so I havent done it yet....I guess for many reasons. I keep thinking he's close to coming to his senses....he seems to go a little further each time they break up, and he is wearing his ring; financially it would be a disaster, we would loose the home we've worked so hard for the last 25 years (2 weeks ago he told me he would never leave it, S says he told him that 5 months ago); and I hate for S to have to go through all that.
I really believe this is mlc stuff, H has even said so, and maybe he is doing the "touch and goes" that Snodderly talks about in that forum.....
I just can't figure out how to proceed, left DR at home, as far as what I should do now DBing wise.
