Just a thought...if she's crying/throwing a tantrum/issuing demands...you want to be the exact opposite. I think the WAS is like water--they will follow the path of least resistance.

My H react horribly to anything he thinks I am doing to "throw it in his face." Yes, I have literally bit the inside of my cheek to stop from saying something damaging to him at times.

Be your H's biggest supporter, his biggest fan, and validate your @$$ off right now! He will appreciate it in a big way. My H at one point said I was the only person who understood his side--I think this was one of the deciding factors in him coming home.

Trust me on this...he does feel guilty, or he wouldn't have said it before. If you hang onto this anger and need for him to constantly apologize, you will make him miserable. I'm not saying he doesn't have some making up to do...just don't push him away with it. I did, after our first sep and the PA--and I honestly think it was a contributing factor to sep #2. I didn't have DB or anyone to help me cope. The few who knew said he should be groveling at my feet for letting him back in, and I took that approach and ran with it. Wasn't good for our M.

So if you need reassurance, just say, "I'm hurting right now. Can I get a hug?" And leave it at that.

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