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Hi dfb, yes, for now he's chosen to be at home, and I need to make the most of it....I wonder it that's what he meant when he said I had the upper hand?



You have two options. You could ask him (if he said it again), or just assume that he means that he's at home. It doesn't really matter in the long run what he meant - he is HOME, even if he still feels a pull towards OW. You need to make sure he feels pulled towards you now.

You should have a GREAT vacation. Make lots of wonderful memories, take lots of wonderful pictures. Take those pictures and put them on a multi-picture frame on the wall. When he thinks of the cabin, he should be thinking about you. And if you get the same bed - just make sure you thoroughly use that bed to the fullest. Do that anyway, but I'd make sure to get completely down and dirty if it was a bed he may have shared with someone else. Erase as many memories as you can and create as many as you can!