The position of power is taking control of the situation instead of letting it get to you. That is SO important. For myself last year, it was checking into ex-OW's past. But there was a reason for that, and it as with the support of ex-B. I had basically told him that she was lying to him and I proved it.
It doesn't take doing anything with or to OW to put yourself in a position of power. Your H has currently chosen to be at home. You already are in a better position. Like...when I found that stuff from last year...that ex-b had gone so far overboard with ex-OW, I could have let it get to me. I did briefly, but I could have confronted him with it and I'd have put myself in a weak position. Instead, I acted as if there wasn't a problem (I tried, anyway). And pretty soon there really wasn't. It still hurts some if I think about it, but I took control and allowed myself to realize that he's spending time with me, not her. And I'm making the most of that.
You need to concentrate on that red, hot mama you know you are!
