Quote: You know it's the excitement, the rush of adrenaline or hormones or whatever that gives us the extra energy for courting a potential mate. that's understandable but what is it that makes some continue to put forth at least some effort in "keeping the love alive" while others are content to flop themselves on the couch of life and let their m coast? Remember when we were first enamored of our dear Hs and we could stay out til 3am and get up for work the next day with a smile on our face? that was a long long time ago and though on occassion it would still be nice...it's not what I'm looking for now. So, he had a boost for a while then maybe he got tired of all that running around and that's why he's back home. actually I don't know how much time he spent with ow at night since after all she had a husband and two young sons of her own to tend to..unless her h was a total shmuck and would let her go out with him at night...as far as I know the majority of their "dates" took place during the day. H never was much of a night person. He did however for a while when he first started to come home spend a few nights a week awake with me wathing the late show but that's not happening even once a month now. Maybe he likes the comfort of home more than the running around. Who knows. hey I enjoy the comfort of home too! it's just that I'd like to really enjoy the comfort of my home have some fun in it and not feel alone in it all the time.
I am at that point right now where I would prefer to have him crashed in his recliner here rather than on HER recliner at her house. well that's understandable! but you have to figure out if that's what you really want after all if it's only "I'd rather him here than there"
He says he is "drifting" home. I would say you should start drifting towrd (or at least acting as if you are) not wanting him home but I know you've made mention of his feeling that you don't. But still he sits there in her house, she's gone, but with the house not yet sold, to him it seems like an OK place to crash. It's still fully furnished, so why not? This situation is so bizarre to me that it is beyond words. If you take a look around you'll sadly discover it isn't so bizarre at all infact it's becoming somewhat the norm as sickening as that sounds.
I understand, really. My H is still AWOL, so I would like him to come home, but I don't want him to come home to just flop in his chair and ignore us again. I need a partner here. That's what marriage is all about, right? that IS exactly what m is all about but unfortunatley some get lost in thinking it's about houses and dishes and paying the bills.
