You know it's the excitement, the rush of adrenaline or hormones or whatever that gives us the extra energy for courting a potential mate. Remember when we were first enamored of our dear Hs and we could stay out til 3am and get up for work the next day with a smile on our face? So, he had a boost for a while then maybe he got tired of all that running around and that's why he's back home. Maybe he likes the comfort of home more than the running around. Who knows.

I am at that point right now where I would prefer to have him crashed in his recliner here rather than on HER recliner at her house.

He says he is "drifting" home. But still he sits there in her house, she's gone, but with the house not yet sold, to him it seems like an OK place to crash. It's still fully furnished, so why not? This situation is so bizarre to me that it is beyond words.

I understand, really. My H is still AWOL, so I would like him to come home, but I don't want him to come home to just flop in his chair and ignore us again. I need a partner here. That's what marriage is all about, right?


Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.