Quote: So, should we just assume you are venting and it's not really as bad as it sounds? I'm never really sure myself...so let's for just assume vent to be on the safe side.
What can we use to chip through the brick wall and get them to talk to us? put down the chissle and go find something else to do? they'll talk when we are busy doing what we enjoy instead of trying to get them to talk? H wants to be close to me and tells me that if he didn't care he wouldn't be so concerned about my phone calls, etc, but, follow thru buddy. TALK TO ME! How do we get to them? as much as it doesn't make sense...I'm going to have to say...stop talking to them and stop trying to get them to talk.
And NO, you cannot stay on vacation forever. If your kids are anything like mine, they already want to go home. How does he react when you tell him how much fun you are having on vacation? he loves it. but of course vacations don't last forever and soon it's back to the same ole same ole..him working and us living life. My H was a little surprised when I went on and on about what a great day we'd had, how beautiful the weather was, etc. I even said, quit your job and lets move here. I think he laughed, but I was so pumped that he couldn't help but respond.
Well, do all the venting or journaling you need. It gets it off your shoulders and helps you let it go, right? And you don't bore the heck out of your human friends. it's not so much boring you all as it is sending a mixed message..piecing is no longer a place where just those piecing reside..it's full of the whole gammot so not all understand that yes even after a year + of h being home things aren't all peaches and cream.
