LL, Lemme ask you this: If you have a hard time getting your H to ML to you, why do you think it would be any different for the OW?
And I'm not being flip.
I know that my H would have a freakin easy time of having an EA, even an extended EA, and not turning it physical. Ok, maybe not an easy time but he could do it, no problemo.
I have SEEN his willpower and I would have a tendency to believe him based on this.
You know your H can go long periods of time without sex and doesn't have an overriding need for it. So this situation...an EA with no sex...would really be in keeping with his general personality wouldn't it? If the answer is yes, then maybe you can relax and go with that thought. If there was a great dichotomy between what his normal actions are vs. what he said happened with her, then yeah I'd say to keep on questioning. But he might be tellin the truth.
Glad to hear things are going good.
Hey I wanted to ask you one more thing: My H is the type of guy who needs the emotional part in order to feel sexy. That is, he needs to feel my love and unconditional acceptance of him to desire me. Me prancing around in a nightie would not do it for him, but if I gave him an extended hug and told him how much I appreciated him and loved him, would.
Is your H like this? Could these guys operate more in the traditionally female roles (in this instance only--I know that your H and mine are no sissy boys, lol) in that they need an inordinate amount of affection and love in order to want sex?
I'm trying to nail down what it was that drew him to OW and therefore help you with your first question...why.
The what was already addressed in the above paragraph.
