LL........YES..a marriage can be renewed..but it takes 2 people who want it..and it takes sometimes giving more to it than the s is able/willing to return..and most of all, I truly believe, that forgiveness..true forgiveness is the most valuable thing to give to yourself and your s. If you continue to have these unsure feelings, then your gut is probably right, and something is still hanging over your heads... I know you have struggled for a long time, and I wish there was some easy solution that I could offer. Dig down deep and do what you feel it will take to make yourself happy..and in turn your h and your m..I know you can do it...don't live a half of a life..it's not healthy for you or your kids..