Quote: I used to think that those whose H's didn't leave, or those whose H's came back, were so much luckier than myself. But I can see that without any work on the R, it is useless, or at least no different from my situation, perhaps even more stressful.
BINGO!!! though h started his path home by doing some of the work he stopped once the initial rush of reconcilliation ended. I'm not intending to imply that it's not worth it to have him back...I'm simply saying it's not enough that he's back...we've still got some work to do and for whatever reason h is still not ready to face those demons WITH me.
lvnl, Best thing for you to do now is to focus on your own demons and rid yourself of them. H will have to do his work in his time.
