Quote: And as I asked what if he comes back and though you've changed in that you no longer make such "I wont put up with this forever" statements but his "rudeness" doesn't change?
I wouldn't have H back without us working on the R beforehand - that is before moving back together physically. There is much that would need to be addressed, and I couldn't sweep it under the carpet anymore.
Back around New Year, he said he had written me many letters and not sent them, then we exchanged a few emails, but they were not terribly revealing of his mind. Not at all. I still feel I didn't get a fair explanation of what drove him away. Those ridiculous excuses he trotted out at bomb time just don't wash. That was stuff to paint me black to jusify being in love with OW no.1, who he is still not over. Don't know what their status is now.
I used to think that those whose H's didn't leave, or those whose H's came back, were so much luckier than myself. But I can see that without any work on the R, it is useless, or at least no different from my situation, perhaps even more stressful.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
