Quote: How can he be willing to make such drastic changes for her and can't salvage what we have together and do the same at home?
tis the nature of the beast. Think of cleaning something..when it's new you want to keep it clean and it's easier to clean because there isn't all kinds of build up on it, but when it's old and really messy because you haven't cleaned it often enough cleaning it is a chore. A r isn't much different through the eyes of a was.
Quote: He says that he and the OW are just friends, which I think would be impossible.
Oh dear lady, my h too claimed he and ow were just friends (however he admitted to being "in love" with her.) at this point he is willing to call it an a (though not always occassionally he'll say "call it whatever you want").
Quote: I'm venting agan. Sorry.
stop appologizing...have you noticed there's more action on this thread since you started venting on it?
Quote: You mentioned not wanting to seem like a brat. I think I want to be spoiled, in a good way.
we all want to be spoiled to some degree...I spoil my h trouble is he'd rather me not spoil him and leave him alone. I want to be spoiled and he chooses to leave me alone. I don't know if I'd consider taking care of your spouse spoiling though.
Quote: , do you have any plans to take the kids on vacation, or away for the weekend? I'm finding it hard to leave because I keep worrying what he will do while I'm gone. Then I think that he will probably find a way to do it while I'm here, so it shouldn't matter. But I sure don't want to make it easy for him
While we were seperated I went away for several mini vacations with (believe it or not) HIS family and the kids. then when we got back together (several months later) the kids and I went on a vaca to disney with some friends (he was invited but couldn't come cause he was too busy) and I just got back from a vaca with my mother and grandmother. I wouldn't let the worry over what he'll do keep you from enjoying life and getting away...he's gonna do what he's gonna do whether you "make it easy" for him or not.
Quote: So he thinks its about sex and how infrequently we had it, I think if he took the time to talk to me a little more, we'd be having sex more often. No one wants to ML to a person who comes to bed after you've wrestled 3 kids into their beds without help and asks if you're feeling frisky!
sorry, reverse role's here. I always wanted it and he was always too tired etc.
