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but WOULD you have put up with "this kind of rudeness forever?" and what makes you think that "this kind of rudeness" wont still be present if you reconcille and perhaps the only change will be that you no longer make such comments.




LL

I don't know what I would have done about his rudeness if he hadn't walked (perhaps just periodically blown up like I used to), but I did try a number of times to sit down and talk to him about the things that weren't right from my POV, in the way we were relating. of course you did but as you said before all that did was seem to send him toward doing it first (leaving that is) but you don't actually answer my question.

He always replied with things like "What do you want me to say?", or said nothing at all. Then carried on doing the same things. And as I asked what if he comes back and though you've changed in that you no longer make such "I wont put up with this forever" statements but his "rudeness" doesn't change?

Now that he has walked, I am honestly thinking, in between wanting him back, that perhaps if H can 'never' change (that's what HE himself thinks) then it is a blessing in disguise. I *want* TO CHANGE, I know I can change, or at least work on it, I am not interested in being stuck in the same place forever. No sir! neither am I. BUT my h did come home and it seems I am stuck in the same place else be dubbed a waw.

But from what I can tell, H's big changes are to go looking for a more 'compatable' woman out there, that he didn't find in me. Perhaps someone who can tolerate unprovoked blinding rudeness?? Hmmmmm. Good luck to her, is all I can say. and my h went and found someone who didn't care what time he was home or when they spent time together or if he was busy doing other things...she couldn't and shouldn't she had her own h and he was just her landscaper...so you see my dilema.

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