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but WOULD you have put up with "this kind of rudeness forever?" and what makes you think that "this kind of rudeness" wont still be present if you reconcille and perhaps the only change will be that you no longer make such comments.




LL

I don't know what I would have done about his rudeness if he hadn't walked (perhaps just periodically blown up like I used to), but I did try a number of times to sit down and talk to him about the things that weren't right from my POV, in the way we were relating.

He always replied with things like "What do you want me to say?", or said nothing at all. Then carried on doing the same things.

Now that he has walked, I am honestly thinking, in between wanting him back, that perhaps if H can 'never' change (that's what HE himself thinks) then it is a blessing in disguise. I *want* TO CHANGE, I know I can change, or at least work on it, I am not interested in being stuck in the same place forever. No sir!

But from what I can tell, H's big changes are to go looking for a more 'compatable' woman out there, that he didn't find in me. Perhaps someone who can tolerate unprovoked blinding rudeness?? Hmmmmm. Good luck to her, is all I can say.

Livnlearn ,

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates