You do sound a lot like a close friend of mine, who's been married close to 25 years and IS still complaining how H won't do this with her, won't do that with her, yet her H manages to keep himself busy doing the things he likes to do...paintballing, hunting and sleeping. Every single time we get together she complains and complains and I'm thinking "shut up" look at what I'VE BEEN THROUGH in the last year..she could care less about me or how I'm doing. Not that it matters or that it matters to me, BUT things COULD be soo much worse.
Years ago she arranged for one night a week to do something with her H. My friend wanted to come watch me and some of our other friends play softball. Her H came with her and the next thing she knows her H is coaching our women's softball team.
LL, you are soo young, your H has a business, you're lonely, two kids....what's going to keep you from walking away some day?
Quote: I do my best but what kind of a m is that?
I don't know about this either, aren't all marriages a little different? Who says all marriages should be alike, what works for one couple might not work for another couple. Are you looking for the storybook marriage? What "kind of m" do YOU want and then ask your H what kind of M he wants...will they be the same?
Have you come right out and asked H if he was happy? Maybe he is and maybe he isn't. Sounds to me like he is happy. Right?
