I am not pro-porn per se' - the world would go on absolutely perfectly without it. However, the fact is, most men look at it. If you are wanting a man who doesn't look - well, either they say they look or they hide it. I am sure there are some men who don't, but I don't know of any. When I was married, my H was a Christian - so he hid it whenever he might look. I think my original point had been...if you leave someone because they look at porn, the chances are that the next guy will be looking as well. Whether he admits it or not.
And if * most * men look at it - then it would make sense that most molestors/pedophiles have as well (though probably more of the kiddie pornography, which is NEVER okay). If I was with someone looking at that type of stuff, I would leave and not look back.
I personally don't think that porn is what starts most affairs. Many, many affairs start in the workplace. It doesn't have to do with porn, it has to do with connecting with someone, and spending a lot of time with them.
Rape is a violent act, I don't even know if it's considered a sexual one per se. It's about power - violence, not sexuality.
Anyway - if all porn went away, I'd be thrilled. But the average guy who is looking at it isn't raping women. Nearly every guy looks at porn - and if you want one who isn't, then you might as well just stay away from men. Some look occasionally, others often - but nearly all look. And heck - it doesn't even have to be porn. Men can get turned on by fully clothed women as well.
