Just one other note - if you go by the Biblical verses about lust in the heart, etc. being infidelity (I don't have the verses in front of me), then yeah - maybe it is. However, so is just looking at another woman. And all men do that.
It bothers me more when someone hides what they are doing. I'd rather that stuff be shared with me. Not that I'd sit and look at it much, but sometimes a video or whatever can put a little spice in your sex life.
If you are looking for a guy who doesn't look at porn, you will be hard pressed to find one. I am sure there are a handful who don't, but even those guys I know who don't believe in looking...well, they look too. Or have. They are ashamed about it, but that doesn't mean they don't surf to some of those sites - porn is so available now. Heck, I've been curious.
So don't be so hard on him. If he's seeking another woman, that is a major problem. If he's just looking - I'd not say it is.
