It seems like I'm doing a lot of agreeing here, but I agree again. You've pretty much summed up another issue that bothers me.
I thought that being attuned and responsive to your partner was supposed to be a good thing. But trying to do that has gotten me nowhere. Just the same, that attitude is so ingrained in me that it just seems wrong when people here tell me to stand up for my needs. I'm not saying that they're wrong (they're probably not) - just that I'm so conditioned that it SOUNDS wrong. Might be a good place to try a 180.
