Well I am struggling with the diffrence between me and my H's HD vs LD. After reading on here the other night and realizing that I am allowing him to call all the shots out of fear that if I don't respond it will turn what little LMing he wants away. He tells me he doesn't like it because I always want to know earlier in the evening if he is in the mood.. He also says I put a lot of pressure on him. I also tried talking to him something I talked about in another thread.. Talking about would he rather I masturbate so that he would not be so pressured. He said I can't give you permission. I told him I wasn't asking for permission but wanted to know if he thought that would help take some of the pressure if I approached that way. I never got a clear answer. Any back to my question. I am trying really really hard not to ask at all about ML and bite my lip. Also I am trying not to appear as if I want to ML at all. The reason is to take the pressure of him and also because I hate the idea of him calling all the shots and I am at his mercy.. I belive it should be a two way street. I am having trouble because I am staying on the computer and doing various other things to try and help me carry this out. I don't want him to feel like I don't love him and don't want to spend time with him but need some distance in order to keep it together and not end up saying anything.. I don't know how to do this.. Does anyone have any ideas..
