I may have missed this, but have you asked her? Point blank?
wildebub, Technically we shouldn't be asking this. We should simply be stating what we want, asking what we need to do to get there, and clearly providing what the consequences will be if things don't change. Then it's up to the LD spouse.
When I discovered PM, and learned to approach issues from a very "personal" set of "wants" instead of worrying about how to "fix" things, my anxiety went away completely. The recovery of a sex life takes very little work...just tough, gut wrenching communication where you put your balls on the table.
It would be interesting to see if someone could journal here for 3 days without trying to analyze what is going on inside their LD spouse. I tried to read some posts where I skipped over anything that did this and it was really interesting.
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