Quote: I bet I could come up with 20 reasons whey she is LD. Where to start?
I may have missed this, but have you asked her? Point blank? My W used to be the queen of excuses. I got her into counseling and asked her point blank in the presence of the C, "why no sex?" She, of course offered the excuse of the month. I addressed that, then asked her again - again in the presence of the C. She came up with another excuse, which I in turn addressed. I did everything from getting a vasectomy to replacing the bedroom door. This went on for quite a while before she finally admitted the truth - she simply doesn't like sex. Never has and probably never will. But unsatisfactory as the end result may have been, I did force her to give up the excuse of the month and get to the actual reason. I may be trying to apply my situation where it doesn't really fit, but I would suspect that if you can force her to quit making excuses and tell you the reason instead of just the excuses, you'll find that there really is some reason why she no longer feels passion.
But either way, I feel for you. I've complained that my W doing the little affectionate things that pique my interest, coming to bed naked, and other things of that nature are torture for me. That's flaunting it in front of me. I'm sure you feel the same way. You had a passionate HDW that disappeared leaving someone who just looks like her in her place. Living with this woman and remembering the R you once had has to be hard.
