I think that I said that all of the qualities that were listed for the LD women (and my wife has them all) are greatly appreciated. But I have looked at myself and determined quite honestly that my love language is physical touch. So here I have an admirable lady that never makes any deposits in my love bank because if she is expressing love, it is in a love language that I don't interpret. So this makes me VERY suseptable to women that LOVE physicalness, weather it be sex or just affection.
As for the right kind of desire, all I can say is that when she was younger, when she had desire, she was flirtatious, fun, loved to cuddle, kiss, have sex daily, and perform sexal acts that today just are not there. Even when I rev her up, she still is far from the passionate one I married. I want passion, not "Hurry up and lets take care of you" cr#p. Since I am the one doing ALL the physical effort, I feel like I am a CHORE to her. I am slowly getting to the point where I have all kinds of desire for sex, but not with her. It's no fun making love to someone whose head is not into it. And most important of all, I want to be shown sex and affection on some occasions WITHOUT me doing anything to REV her up, like I might actually mean something to her.
