OK, my two cents. I think many of you are jumping CeMar's case for just stating -- in plain English -- what a lot of us THINK, but are always so damned careful to couch in more politically-correct language.
What I get out of what he is saying is that while many of these non-sexual qualities might be admirable and even preferable for some men, it is the CHANGE in his wife that has him angry and frustrated. It's the ol' "bait-and-switch," quite simply he does not feel like THIS IS THE WOMAN HE MARRIED.
There is a saying in Christian circles of "If you feel yourself further from God, as yourself -- WHO MOVED?" I think many of us are sad, angry, frustrated and confused because we are now married to a woman that is NOTHING like the one we married. I'm in advertising -- if you're LD/ND, that's fine -- just let me know before I marry you. I may or may not still marry you, but don't you think I deserve to know that, IF MY PRIMARY LOVE LANGUAGE is physical touch and affection???
Choc., who can understand where CeMar is coming from.
