I typically don't defend CeMar (and I'm not letting CeMar off the hook either), but before we started having more sex, I was so desperate, anxious, and generally freaked out that I was thinking that way too. As predicted by the C, once the frequency came back, I wasn't so weird anymore. I actually was able to develop clarity and could then see the real issues going on. A little bit of sex also makes it much easier to empathize.
CeMar's statements, as "broken-record" as they may seem, are due to his situation and his anxiety about it. In my house, it was fairly easy to move forward but in his, it's probably going to be much harder. On one hand I want say "shut up!" and on the other, I feel sympathetic.
PM talks about the fact that greater fusion, requires greater force. So, CeMar, I hate to say this, but I truly think you need to develop an exit strategy and separate for a while. It will require you to get over the notion that a D will ruin you kids' lives. It will be such a loud shot across the bow, that your W will have no choice but to respond. It may or may not work.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
