Cemar: Did you read any of Eyesopened posts? She is a formerly LD wife who is reaping her rewards as I write.
And, to refute your hypothesis, she has not turned HD. Her sex drive is not in overdrive. But her willingness to please her husband was increased by 100%. She wants to please him and she wants to feel desire. Most of all, she wants him to be happy and to feel loved. Isn't that what we all ultimately want from our spouse??
Would this be enough for you? If you knew that your wife WANTED you to stimulate her to feeling desire, would this be okay in your mind?
I see you going down a pointless road, in insisting that your W become HD. That is like her insisting that, in order for your marriage to succeed, you must become LD. You could never do it, although you might have some periods of semi-success.
I don't personally expect my H to become HD, although he definitely has his moments. And in fact, with many women out there he would be the HD partner.
I do expect him to WANT to WANT me and to make a serious effort to put our sexual relationship at the forefront of his life.
If your focus has been on turning your wife HD, then I can see why she is resistant. Perhaps you can change your focus and she will respond better...?
