I want desire, I do not necessarily need it from her. But if she can not provide it, then in the long run I must find it from someone else. So I am not sure if this is need or want. I can say this, that life without a lover sucks. And Lovers DESIRE each other. So is this need or want, I am not really sure.
As for how she works, she can get arroused if I do lots of foreplay, assuming I don't get rejected first. I can understand the arrousal thing being backwards for her. But I also understand that much of DESIRE in women is a state of mind. I want all the things that you HD women do. I want LOTS of affection, I want flirting, I wants LOTS of sex with lots of variation. I want deep emotional connection in the process. I want foreplay FOR ME. I want oral sex FOR ME. I basically want it ALL. I want the FULL PM.
And most importantly, I want it ONLY when she wants to do it. It must NEVER seem like effort on her part. It must NEVER seem like willingness on her part. I want the women I married to return. I married her specifically because she WAS HD. I would NEVER even consider dating a woman in the condition she is in today. No man in their right mind would date a women that has little desire for sex. That is so incredibly INCOMPATIBLE.
From everything I have seen and read, some women are great at sex, and others are horrible at it. And the difference, always their DESIRE for sex. I guess this is why Michelle always states up front that the HD partner has to really show empathy for the LD. It is her way of saying that you have to set your sights really low as the LD partner will never really be capable of matching up with a HD partner.
So, Honeypot, if her arrousal pattern is backwards, how can a couple overcome this without the Man having to do all the work. And how do you get it to the point where the woman LOVES to ML on her own. Afterall, sex only truly works when both people WANT to be there.
