Cemar: Does your wife's opinion of you define who you are, as a man? If it does, then this is other validation. If you can look at yourself and see an attractive and virile guy, then you are self validating. The trick is to be able to hold on to yourself even though you feel yourself slipping towards NEEDING that validation from W. Not wanting it, but NEEDING it. Do you see the distinction?
Also I didn't get a clear answer from you regarding her desire cycle being backwards. Basically are you saying that you do not accept that as a legitimate thing?
And that she must reverse how her body operates if she hopes to remain married to you?
Cause I think that wanting a person to be passionate and expecting them to completely change how their body operates are two totally different things.
