It is me, Questioning, again with more angst. I know that my W is trying to arrange a meeting with OM in two days while I am out of town. She and I did agree that she would see him in person one more time. I wonder if she thinks that this is the last time, or if she will then try to create other meetings. I think the latter case will prove to be true.
The other day while talking to my wife (as we are getting along great and living life as if nothing is/was different) I told her that my fear is that we'll just return to where we were in our marriage, and this will cause her to return to her relationship with OM because she will still have unmet needs. I realized that during the time of crisis, the two of us had some amazing conversations and both felt alive, passionate and excited (although maybe with some negative emotions). Now that the overt crisis is over, life is returning to a rather boring flat calm.
My wife said that her emails with OM were now boring, and I said that this is probably because they are no longer full of possibilities and sexual innuendo. She soon fixed this up by spicing up her next email to him. So, it is very apparent what need of my wife's is being met by the relationship with OM, and not being met in our marriage. It is the passion, the excitement, and the emotions. How does one ignite these though when you work, eat, raise children and deal with finances? How to keep that fire alive 24/7?
