What is going on with this woman, my wife? She is telling me that she wants to work on this marriage, wants to be only with me, and sees the OM only as a friend. Yet, she continues to email him and tell him that since her husband is going to be out of town this month so much, maybe they could meet up.
I have the sense that she is seeking to take their relationship to a new and physical level. She probably doesn't want to be with him forever, but she wants to experience all that this affair has to offer before they are separated when he moves. I can see this, but the idea of her sending him romantic emails and lusting after him, trying to concoct ways for them to meet so they can grope one another is too painful.
What does one do? Do I just sit back and let her continue in this vein. Do I allow them to sleep together if that's the choice she makes? What is worse, to confront her and tell her I know what's going on, or to wait for them to sleep together and then try to deal with my disgust and anger?
