Quote: Consider that in most cases, when a spouse discovers their partner is having an affair, the one having the affair is grovelling and doing all the work to keep things together. They say they will never see the lover again, etc.
Yet, in my case, I am doing more than is reasonable. I am keeping my distance from my wife, as a roommate should, and am being the consumate husband at the same time. I am not asking anything at all from her, especially affection, and I am not even demanding that she never see her lover again. In fact, my W is still talking about going on vacation with him in six months time.
Am I insane or is she not the most selfish woman in the world? What is going on here? How can she possibly be treating me like this, expecting everything of me, and still want to waltz off and live the high life with OM? I don't get it. Is this the kind of woman that I even want to stay married to?
It seems to me what we think happens in most cases is mot really how it goes. I have yet seen were the affair is put out in the open and the one having the affair is willing to give up the OP right away. Maybe that is why most marriages end because of affairs.
You are taking the best action that you can. All WAS are very selfish for they want the best of both worlds. I think the trick is the show theam that the real world with us in it is better then la la land they share with the OP.
As for feeling like you are insane that is the question you will ask yourself a thosand times. And each time you will go back and forth on it.
Just keep doing the best you can. Work on yourself keep your PMA up and don't give up hope.
