Hello everyone. I'm new and need some advice. My H and I have been married for almost 19 years, he's 43. For the last 3 years, I guess our marriage hasn't been very happy. I was depressed and drinking and he was beginning midlife. We have 2 children (16 and 11) Now, he's involved emotionally with a woman he's know for 2 years who's married, 3 kids and her H is a louse. Soooo, there you have it.
He told me the last weekend in March. His affair started the last week in Feb.
I started with the last resort technique and he noticed right away. But I just can't keep the positive vibes going. I'm jealous, questioning, trying to be logical. Now he's decided to move out of the house.
I don't know what to do next. I feel I should be home with the kids, yet I know I have to keep busy and make myself look like I'm moving on. I'm at the end of my rope.
He says she'll never leave her H and he won't give her a divorce...but he's still contacting her and they see each other when they can. The last week in May they got together in a hotel, but "didn't get intimate."
We weren't happy, but I didn't know he wasn't and he's said, "I gave up on you and on us. I pulled away and you pulled away from me." How do I help him see that our relationship is worth another try even if it takes time? HELP, give me perspective. I'm desparate and need help.
