Thanks, dleightonc. I am obviously working in that vein right now, so to hear some positive affirmation for my actions is reassuring. However, it still grates on me in some ways.
Consider that in most cases, when a spouse discovers their partner is having an affair, the one having the affair is grovelling and doing all the work to keep things together. They say they will never see the lover again, etc.
Yet, in my case, I am doing more than is reasonable. I am keeping my distance from my wife, as a roommate should, and am being the consumate husband at the same time. I am not asking anything at all from her, especially affection, and I am not even demanding that she never see her lover again. In fact, my W is still talking about going on vacation with him in six months time.
Am I insane or is she not the most selfish woman in the world? What is going on here? How can she possibly be treating me like this, expecting everything of me, and still want to waltz off and live the high life with OM? I don't get it. Is this the kind of woman that I even want to stay married to?
