Been with my W for seven years, two kids. We've had a difficult marriage in that we often feel dissatisfied, but we don't ever have big fights. It's mostly just wondering if we did the right thing.
For the last month she has been having an EA with somebody I know in our very small community. The affair has mostly been online, with a few low-key physical meetings... one kiss. He is now telling her that he is IN LOVE WITH HER!!! Yet they've only been emailing one another. I think he is insane, and I so want to confront him. He is also in a relationship and his partner does not know. Should I tell her? What's best?
My wife knows that I know, and we have been talking about separating. However, for the sake of the kids and the hurt it is causing others, she thinks she should stay with me. Yet, by doing so she believes she is turning her back on destiny, true love, and a passionate chemistry that she doesn't have with me. She feels that she'll be miserable the rest of her life if she stays, and she'll regret the decision to her dying day.
Do I want to live with a woman like this? NO! Do I want a sexless marriage where I am resented and held up as the cause of her ruined life? Not really.
So what to do? Do I just tell her to go, to be with him? I still love my wife and am trying to believe that we can have a future together. I have ordered several books, including DR, and am eager to read them.
In the meantime I am in agony because of my own pain, my W's pain, and the thought of OM trying to seduce her away by saying he loves her when he knows nothing at all about real love.
