Journey, thanks for replying to my posted message. You are right I am escaping in a sense. My head does tell me escaping my problems is not the best thing to do. I tried counseling a number of years ago but it did not seem to help me much. I will think about it again for myself, my H is against counseling for him but thinks I should go to counseling. As a matter of fact I find advice from others who are in a similar position seems to help me better. Just posting here is very helpful beeel free to be straight forward about what is going on. Sometimes I feel ashamed of talking with friends and admitting I am unhappy in my marriage.

Thanks for your advice, I will keep searching my mind and heart to see if I come up with a workable solution.