Probably a bit of crazymaking, I'm sure I am driving my realtor nuts! I also pissed David off today and he was having a cr*ppy day at work so he did admit that was part of it. He called about 4:30 this evening and I told him good bye. He doesn't believe me. He said he will talk to me tomorrow or the next day.
I discussed what I should do when move out of here, for some reason that made him mad. But he finally said leave the utilities turned on and the mowing crew in place.
I appreciate your effort to send me some PMA
Unfortunately for some darn reason when I get all this junk stirred up I have to wade through it before I can get back up again.
Reminding me about locking the door here just makes me more sad. I really don't want to leave this house and that is probably a big part of the problem about the new house. Plus mom hates it and one of my girlfriends that I sent the link too said she was concerned when she saw how close my neighbors are to me.
Darn it, I CAN do this, I lived in an apartment. Surely I can adjust to a house in a subdivision.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
If not being in contact with your H will help you to keep emotionally stable, then do it. It doesn't have to stay that way for ever, but do what you need to do for you, right now.
What's wrong with neighbours? They 'can' be great, - fun, friends, helpful etc! I always make a point of cultivating good neighbourliness, and have been fortunate in making good friends that way too.
Always look on the bright side of life!
Livnlearn
PS One thing I have learned about life, everything, every choice or situation is like a coin - it has two sides. Whatever you see as a 'good' thing, probably has its negative aspects, while every 'bad' thing will also have it's positive aspects. Nothing is completely bad or good, which is why there are no such things as saints or heaven. Hope I am not treading on any religious toes here?
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
I hope taking him out of my life will help, I think it will, because being in contact with him just keeps me wishing he would give us another chance.
So how do you cultivate good neighborliness? I have never had close neighbors, other than when in my apartment.
Thank you for reminding me of the two sides, something I have always heard is your positive traits are on the flip side also your negative personality traits.
I do believe in God, heaven and h*ll. I also believe that here on earth you are completely right about two sides and here lately I have been looking at the bad side. I knew I was down, but it hadn't really hit me I was only looking at the bad side. That is a very BAD habit of mine!
One that I would like very much to break. I guess when extremely stressed it is way too easy for me to fall back into old habits. I wish new behaviors would become the habits so they aren't so much hard work!
Hope everyone has a great day! That is my plan, to try to find some bright sides today.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Quote: So how do you cultivate good neighborliness? I have never had close neighbors, other than when in my apartment
Hi again
Well, for a start, you make a point to greet them when you see them, go over and introduce yourself when you see them out and about. Obviously, don't be pushy, just friendly. If you need some information about the local area, don't feel shy to ask around.
And then if you start getting on, you'll be exchanging pieces of cake, plants, keeping an eye on each others' property while you are away on holiday, etc etc. Having friendly communal barbeques, maybe the local kids would like to stroke and play with your dogs, take them for walks, stuff like that.
Who's to know that there aren't a great bunch of people out there?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
Don't worry about the neighbors, being single I would prefer being close to other people vs. out in the country by myself. When H and I lived in a duplex, H was gone a lot, so just the closeness of "people" helped me to relax and I slept better at night, too!! It was comforting.
I too grew up out in the country and liked the privacy. H and I currently live in a rural setting, neighbors on one side and an open field on the other. I'm the type that likes to keep to myself for the most part. When I am in the yard, I don't want to feel like I have to socialize with my neighbors every time I am outside. I think there are 20 houses in our subdivision with large lots and for the most part neighborlyness involves a wave when you are outside or driving into the neighborhood. There is a family three doors down that we stop and chat with as they have a boy a little older than S4 and neighbor is hunter like my H.
Don't fret about having neighbors, the down side may be if your dogs bark a lot when you're not home. I know my sister's dog was like that and her neighbors did complain.
Good morning, Pam - It was wonderful chatting briefly yesterday
Well, my yahoo id is also dbingslowly. My man is on a business trip next week, so I can be quite dysfunctional with sleep Looking forward to some 'live' chat
How are things going with the house purchase? You know, neighbors can be a good thing. When my H left, I had several offer to help around here and offered to take the kids off my hands if I needed time alone. And I am not close to any of them. They are people I talk to from time to time, but not socialize with. There is one family that I know better because my kids play with their son, but otherwise, it is just nice to know they care.
Now that my H is home, they have welcomed him back as well.
We are getting at least 4 new families in the neighborhood this summer, so we will do the welcome to them as well.
I know it is hard, but go into it with an optimistic point of view and you will reap the rewards.
Do you have a real estate commercial on TV right now where a woman moves into a neighborhood, next to a single professor and the next thing you now it they are getting married? Thought of you when I saw it. You never know what surprises the Lord has in store for you.
Keep your chin up my dear!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
That really is one of the reasons I don't want to move out like my mom would prefer. Even though I am worried about living so close to people, I prefer that to being out and alone. I just have to get my mind around the adjustment!
The large lots sound nice, but in this area one with a large lot is OUT OF MY PRICE RANGE!
The dogs shouldn't really be a problem as they spend very little time outdoors and their barking indoors probably only bothers me.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I really enjoyed chatting with you and have added you on my Yahoo as well and hopefully will manage to be online at the same time some this upcoming week.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I really don't want to leave this house and that is probably a big part of the problem about the new house. Plus mom hates it and one of my girlfriends that I sent the link too said she was concerned when she saw how close my neighbors are to me. 
