The only other positives I came up with is I think the driveway will be easier to get in and out of in the winter and the garage is attached to the house and not all the way back at the barn like it is now.
I am hopeful I will feel better about the house as my emotions level out a bit more, which they should start doing by the end of this week.
I guess the house becoming closer to being mine just drives home that I am stepping way down from having some room around a house and there is pretty much no chance of that ever changing the other way again.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
So I have decided besides just being too darn emotional for life, and not logical, I am also weird.
My dad was down yesterday as my mom was out of town and he said as he was leaving he guessed David and I could build a couple of big houses on our land to sell and make some money off of it.
I feel a great deal of attachment to this place and seeing a couple of big houses built on it is the last thing I would want.
I know I had been hoping David would keep it, but I don't want Janice there so I guess I need to hope it sells quickly after I move out.
This really sucks and I have a very don't care attitude about everything right now. I hope it passes.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
You were looking for the "perfect" house but you'll never find it. The perfect house doesn't exist - you will always find some problem with the house you are in. What you can do is make some improvements to the house, make some compromises with yourself and enjoy what you have.
Hmm.... sounds like good advice for relationships too!
Quote: The perfect house doesn't exist - you will always find some problem with the house you are in. What you can do is make some improvements to the house, make some compromises with yourself and enjoy what you have.
Hmm.... sounds like good advice for relationships too!
Calystra,
All of us HERE know that, just wish those spouses out THERE would understand it too!!!
Why don't you come visit my thread? Your fame precedes you!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
Good to "see" you again! Practical, logical, solid advice as always.
The biggest problem is even though it has things I would still want to change, I want to stay in the house I am in now.
Met with the realtor and we are asking them to fix some of the problems that the inspector found on Saturday. Now they have till 6:00 pm next Monday to respond if they will do the repairs or not.
I am trying to be satisfied with what little in the way of a friendship that David is giving me, and yeah, when I get down I still wind myself up sometimes over the J cr*p!
But I stay level better now than I used too, hopefully that will just keep progressing.
Take care, thank you and have Fun!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
It seems this house deal is not going smoothly at all, I am starting to wonder if this one wasn't meant to be.
They are claiming there are no termite tubes and going to possibly get a second inspection. So at this point I am not sure what my options are or what I will do if I can back out if they refuse to treat the house.
Since I'm not too thrilled with the house right now I am leaning towards backing out if I can.
The hassle with the house and now cr*p with David has me so stressed out that I just stay sick to my stomach all of the time. I HAVE to do something, change something.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
My attorney called yesterday afternoon and asked if I had heard from David on changing the wording in the settlement so it was clear I wasn't responsible for house payments after I moved out. I have not.
He apparently went to his A's office a couple of weeks ago and signed the copy that my A faxed over for his A to look at and see if she had everything right.
The thing that gets me here, that really tells me how cr*ppy my A is, she asked if I had any problem with her just faxing back the two copies so they could file the divorce. I said yes, I need the wording changed!!! Gee, is the woman dense?
So I called David, his understanding is I keep making payments on our house rather I am living in it or not but that I don't get my money back after 3 months. I said why the heck would I agree to something like that, he said he had no idea! So I have no idea what the heck my options are now on the divorce settlement.
My A said she was calling his A yesterday afternoon and would call me back, of course I haven't heard anything yet.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
All of this cr*p is keeping me so stressed and stirred up. I seemed to have a bit of peace for awhile but it is gone.
What I believe might help is to totally shut David and his stuff out of my life. Which means I need out of the house on PK and him not on my IM and never to see or talk with him again. That might seem drastic but seeing him and talking with him just seems to remind me about what I have lost and about he and J.
I am hopeful that having him totally out of my life will allow some peace back into it. Lots of sadness but at least maybe less stress.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Sounds like you are crazymaking about this house? See what happens with the house inspection information and go from there.
If it is dark, lighten it up with paint and mirrors and lamps. You need to see it empty and imagine your things in there - with your personality infused in the joint!
Look for the positives my dear - don't even let any negative thoughts enter in okay?
Think about the day when you lock the door on your current place and open the door on the new home you will make for yourself and the kids! Then get excited!
(Do you get the fact that I am sending some PMA your way? LOL!)
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Practical, logical, solid advice as always. 
