I will work on making some goals for myself...I am going to look into joining the local gym.. I know this will give me something to do, and the kids will have a blast there... The problem i'm having now is H is pulling back, i'm watching it happen. He is slowly distancing himself from me. I understand completely why.. I really dont blame him, but i cant stand the thought of losing him... (TOO Bad i didnt think more like this before OM.. I'm a mess, I need advice, I havent been able to get into town to get the books, and i dont get a lot of online time right now to read everyones stories.. i shouldnt be on right now, but i'm doing well.. It has been 3 days since i have talked to OM... Its been hard, but its what i have to do to save my marriage. I dont want to bombard H with questions of what he is thinking and to talk about it.. he has said he doesnt want to think about it right now, and i know i need to let him come to me.. but its so hard to watch him pulling away i did this to him anyway any advice on how to rebuild my relationship with him would be helpful.. Thank you...