C&S,

I'm glad you took our comments seriously.

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I need to hear this stuff.. maybe if i hear it enough i will make the right decision.



This sounds awfully tentative, C&S. Why do you have to hear it enough? You're on this board because you KNOW this is wrong, you KNOW this is not good for you, and you KNOW your family is going to get very hurt if you do not change.

You think this is hard? Wait until your H finds out, leaves you and sues for sole custody for the children. Then you're going to find out how difficult life can truly be.

Why do you feel so miserable? I notice you're awfully young and have lots of responsibilities. The good thing is that you can make these changes now and have a long and happy life together. But that's going to depend entirely on YOU.

What goals to you have for yourself, C&S? "YOU" oriented things that boost your own self esteem and general happiness?

Let's start there. And first one I want to see is "Terminate contact with men who are not just friends."

Betsey

"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."

Albert Einstein