This response goes back to a discussion Pan and I were having about the 'new guy, new relationship' approach.
Quote: you asked on the "Friends" thread if your husband felt guilt (at a bet, yes, and a lot of it) and whether you should aquaint him of the fact that you, yourself, have let go of the old relationship and are looking to build a completely new one.
I've been pondering on this for the past few days, and have really come to a comfortable point that the approaches I use to deal with a difficult situation are just that, MY approaches. NG does not need to know, in fact, I can feel myself detaching, or maybe even distancing, from him a little as I continue to feel unsafe.
A new relationship means I truly must learn this person afresh, and so sharing at such depth is really not appropriate
