I would kill to have my H calls me 'at all times of the day'. I think he is seeking the consolation that what he is doing is right, ie restraining his contact with OW. Remember when you told me that he needs to establish his safety net. Give him that slowly. I know some people cant do it, that it looks pathetic, but us DBers here know all full well that we are seeking who is right and wrong rather what will be a loving happy and fulfilling R in the long term.
You are doing great already...only maybe drop the A issue for a while..You have forever to dwell on the A...
Sometimes the very thing you're looking for is the one thing you can't see..
