It seems straightforward to me. You "started with" a simple check in "how are you?". I think it is fair to say that your H has noticed your insecurities about the fact that he still writes or contacts OW. He KNOWS you. You have expressed your feelings here, and although you are one of the calmer DB'ers here on the board, you have had your share of questions and concerns.
Having "a talk" would be another indication for him that you have some concern. I don't find his answer invalidating.... perhaps incomplete. Finding out what he means by that might mean that, in explaining what you should NOT be worried about, he must identify the behaviors that are continuing to bother you. He might get a sense of what he needs to DIScontinue in order to assure you.
On the other hand, I cannot remind you strongly enough how important it is for you to focus on the fact that your H is HOME and has said HE IS COMMITTED TO YOU. FOCUS ON THIS!
What you focus your attention on will expand. How would you treat him if you knew without a doubt that he will never stray again? What would you be doing?
And the all time kicker..........any MYSTERY lately?
