you asked on the "Friends" thread if your husband felt guilt (at a bet, yes, and a lot of it) and whether you should aquaint him of the fact that you, yourself, have let go of the old relationship and are looking to build a completely new one.
To that, I can only offer a qualified "yes". If that's not just a decision of your intellect that could change tomorrow (because internally you're still on the rollercoaster), but genuinely how you feel and have consistently felt for a while now, then do it. Like I said, just make sure it is genuine, because he'll pick up on it if it isn't. Animal instinct, especially of the guilty party. *smile*
On the other hand, realize that by doing so, you might lose your chance to really address those issues with him in the future, if you haven't already (sorry that I didn't have time to read your whole thread). If it were my H, and I'd told him I wanted to start completely fresh, then anything from the past would have to remain strictly in the past from now on to the end of time, or he'd think I hadn't been honest, and there'd be hell to pay.
