Hi Betsey - It sure took me a long time to figure out that I was trying to fix the wrong problem Yes, I do hope 40 will bring on better times.

I continue to be amazed at how liberating writing/posting the emotional process can be - it was like making a commitment to myself - far more compelling than the usual musings. Some residual bitterness is to be expected I suppose, after all, I did get hit while minding my own business. But just now, for example, we drove past one of the hotels that was site of NG's and OW's afternoon liaisons, and the usual rolling pain was quite absent. What a relief!

I have about an hour to check up on friends here, then back to the salt mine. Slowly.

A Liberal Allowance of Time