Hi Guys - Just wanted to clarify (more for myself) why this re-training is a big deal for me.
For YEARS, I have adjusted my wants/preferences around NG, on the basis that there are some things which are just 'him'. For example, when we are out shopping, he has to walk fast. No notion of window shopping, just straight from shop A to B, ticking off the list of things to get. Even his mom, who is a 70-year old, comments that if we go out with NG, we should be prepared to be knocked down following him crossing the road, he is so far ahead
To then find out that the most frequent activity with OW was walking through malls window shopping (and she is 6 inches shorter than me, a SLOW walker) is well, plain hard to swallow. Now I KNOW he can adapt to the people he cares about, so, well, I don't see why he should not.
I saw something similar on MAL's thread, about how these guys don't like dogs, but with OW, well they love them. OK, I'll resist the obvious female dog reference
The things with NG, in isolation they are very small. But it is his control mechanism, So battle lines are drawn, and with the support here, I think I'm better prepared. We will have a more caring and considerate relationship, with kindness and courtesy going BOTH ways.
Does this make more sense, guys? Or am I still missing the forest for the trees?
