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Sometime when I feel ready, I'll need to dwell on the man NG has become, and whether I actually like this person. But this too could be a transitional stage, so I guess any analysis now may be premature Patience, patience, patience



Yes Yes Yes.... You have worked so carefully and been so present in bringing your H around. It really would be premature to go in a direction that has you examine, parse and evaluate whether or not you even like him.

Oh, I believe we understand JUST how it has happened that you might even question whether or not you even like NG. But there are better questions you may consider asking yourself that may help you get closer to rediscovering that man you once loved.

Slowly, it is scary to get closer and closer to what you have hoped might return. Victory may not be everything you had imagined it might be. He may not be GRATEFUL enough that you hung in there. You may also be more than a little afraid that you might ever be able to trust him again.

SO. The question is, are you now looking for ways to distance yourself so that you do not get hurt again? How can you be both strong and vulnerable (open to) NG and the process so that you may again discover HOW to like him again?

maya