Some things have worked really well for me. At the begining of my previous thread, I was struggling to emotionally apply and live the mantras my mind knew to be good for me - to relax, to let NG work through his drama, to get a life. By the end of the thread, largely, I found myself chilled out and reasonably comfortable with letting things ride for a while. This is HUGE for me, a recovering crazymaker

I'm also more accepting of the fact that every now and then, I have an emotional episode, and that the next day, I'm able to muster the strength to boost my spirits and continue the good fight. Journaling has been incredibly helpful. Yesterday was one of the dark cloud days, and I'm not going to sweep it under the carpet. Here is my post about how I felt.
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Journaling Thursday.

Pretty good start to day, easy morning at work, good chat with my boss about next year. I'm lucky I work for a great company and a great manager, lots of creative freedom

NG came over for lunch, then went to a project meeting. Friend had car problem, so mid-afternoon we took off on a rescue mission. Something different. Had light dinner, came home to catch up on emails.

Lately NG has been OK with me sitting next to him just reading my book while he does email, but body language last night was negative, so I stayed over on my couch. Later, I just went over for a cuddle and saw his LONG email to OW.

Just had to take off on my own, and have a weep. NG told me 6 weeks ago he was ending it, and there will be NO MORE CONTACT. Who is this weak man, who cannot keep his word? What has he done with my husband? Admittedly there were no endearments etc, but still, to take the time and effort to express anger an frustration at how she is running her life - that means the feelings are not being allowed to fade away.



Sometime when I feel ready, I'll need to dwell on the man NG has become, and whether I actually like this person. But this too could be a transitional stage, so I guess any analysis now may be premature Patience, patience, patience

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time