Later for now....

[NotATLDave]

Here's the "paths".... This was a 3 am brain dump, so I apologize if they aren't fully baked, but what it does is give me a the ability to provide specific behaviors and indicators. This will be part of a roadmap which will really test my differentiation.


Commitment
A.1. Committed enough to stay in the marriage
A.2. Committed enough to explore repair options
A.3. Committed enough to reject sex less often
A.4. Committed enough to not reject a minimal amount of sex within an interval
A.5. Committed enough to not reject a spontaneous bid for sex outside of the interval

Desire
B.1. Desire is strong enough to enjoy sex while in progress
B.2. Desire is strong enough to be enthusiastic of an upcoming encounter
B.3. Desire is strong enough to initiate sex occasionally (weekly)
B.4. Desire is strong enough to initiate spontaneously
B.5. Desire is strong enough to overcome personal hangups (time of month, places, etc.)
B.6 Desire is strong enough to initiate above a personal hangup

Advanced Sexual Relationship Building
C.1. Will listen to and attempt to indulge my sexual preferences and requests during LM
C.2. Will provide me with specific requests during LM when I solicit these responses
C.3. Will spontaneously solicit my sexual preferences and requests during LM
C.4. Will spontaneously provide me with specific requests during LM
C.5. Will spontaneously solicit my sexual preferences and requests prior to LM
C.6. Will spontaneously provide me with specific requests prior to LM
C.7 Will commit to reaching sexual potential and collaborate with me prior to and during LM.

The large groups can be worked on somewhat independently. For example, I feel like we are somewhere between A4 and A5, B1 and somewhere between C3 and C4. This tells me that Desire is the next path to focus on and get the level up to at least B4.

I think I'm onto a way of communicating my needs and the indicators that we are indeed achieving them. This will really help when it comes to showing my W specifically the things I want out of the relationship. In essence....this is "The List" that she's wanted for the past 5 months.

I'm about to move this to a new Journal thread.