T2, Good to see you drop by! And thanks for the e-mail!
Hearing that things are better than before; is all our hopes here. Some of us don't get the chance, but most do!
I'd say most OW think they have won and don't. I didn't want to step on anyones' toes here just in case you are an OW. but the percentages are against the OW's. That is just a fact.
I'm glad my buddy is happy with her new life. Glad to hear that things are settling down. We love when people come back and post, to let us know that DBing really works! Makes me feel hope is out there and I should get out of the "dark" and start DBing again!
I want everyone to know this woman has been tons of help to me! And even though all of us stubble at one point and we'd love to throw in the towel, she didn't! She kept trying different techniques, until she found the one that worked for her and her sitch.
Sometimes I think we need to quite doing what DOES NOT work. Just because we get stuck and don't want to crawl out of our comfort zone. I get stuck, go back to doing the same old crap and wonder why things are not moving forward like I want!
Sometimes we need to go back to the DR book and threads that sg and JJ have set up here on the BB. They are there for a reason. I've been here a year and stumble back to those older threads to find some solutions for what did work and what I need to do.
This is not a one size fits all. You have to moniter the results and if they don't work try something different. If things aren't working more than likely you are doing "more of the same". But on the otherhand, doing something that your S knows you would never do, they won't believe it, so you must either keep doing it or decide to try something else. Someone said they think we are just playing games. I don't think so, I call it solutions.
