Do you know what his language to RECEIVE in is? And how you usually EXPRESS? Discuss the book with him - I bet it'll be an eye-opener.
Ellie
Ellie -
I thought about that last night, actually, before I fell asleep. He does like to do acts of service - and I really do appreciate them, that is a big thing for me. I don't like getting tons of gifts, and I'd actually think it'd be impractical to get gifts * too * often. But on occasion, I really enjoy it. And I do agree as far as it being words of affirmation - it has come up in the past (I've tried to explain to him that I am not insecure, I just do like to hear how pretty I am on occasion, or if I do something well). It's not something I need to hear constantly, but it's nice on occasion. Last week he told me how pretty I looked and it was a huge deal to me.
As far as him - I'd say that acts of service is what he is closest to (as far as me doing for him), but I'd have to re-read the book to make sure. Thanks for reminding me again.
I did explain to him how much I appreciated him and how very thoughtful he is. But that it was disappointing to me to not have my birthday acknowledged here at all, nor have flowers or anything else. I feel it's best now to just say it and be done with it for the time being. I don't want him to think I'm overly needy - and maybe I'll just need to do things like that for myself in the future.
